DeeKaying @ Nettle

Postmortem: YYYY-MM-DD - Incident Postmortem Owner: John Doe |  Incident Runner: Jane Doe Start Time: YYYY-MM-DD HH:MM:SS TZ | End Time: YYYY-MM-DD HH:MM:SS TZ | Duration: Postmortem Review Date: Today’s date | Postmortem Verification Date: Future Date of Verification Meeting Executive Summary Cover in this section what happened, why it happened, how long was the outage, what fixed it and what the action items are.  A post-mortem review is done in 2 meetings - one when the Postmortem is reviewed and discussed to figure out the right root cause (owner: Postmortem-lead or delegate) and two when the implementation of the AIs from the Postmortem are verified as implemented and deployed to production (owner: SRE-lead or delegate). The second meeting should happen no later than 1-2 weeks from the postmortem review date. The process of a postmortem needs to be tracked in a ticket. The first item of the post-mortem review meeting is to schedule the verification meeting and ticket. Ve...

1.⁠ ⁠The first year is the hardest. Spend as much money as you can on services - nannies, amazon, cleaning services (1-2x/wk) & cooks (1-2x/wk) - all are a must. You should spend 75%+ of your HH income this year without blinking.  2.⁠ ⁠⁠2yrs 3 months (27 months) is when the pressure will reduce from the first kid. Immediately plan kid #2 - the pediatric recommended gap is 2-3y. 3.⁠ ⁠⁠You’re signing up for 5 years of intensive care and support. Kids become a lot less pressure at age 5-6 (and that’s why schools at K work).  4.⁠ ⁠⁠Every year before age 6 is entirely different.  5.⁠ ⁠⁠If you have 1 kid, you’re signing up for 17 years of parenting and energy exchange. If you have 2 kids, you’re signing up for only 6 years (the 2nd one will work with the first one at age 2-3 and you’re all good).  Our kids have just reached 6 and 3 and the pressure is now letting up.  Keep expectations clear - life before kids is over. It’s a 6 year journey to stability, and +10y ...